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Many have experienced their childhood filled with listening to screaming parents, witnessing violence, and having to step up to the plate far too early in life and be the parent.  What did this teach us? 

Not only were we very angry children (inside) feeling responsible, but often times this lead us to a path of becoming very loyal (angry) adults who knew no boundaries.  Just because someone is related to us, doesn’t mean they “own” us and does not excuse violence, abuse, or neglect.  Everyone wants nice parents.  But that just isn’t in the cards for all of us.  Once we realize that and move on, the sooner to healing and living a happy, healthy life.

Do you have children now?  Maybe you are repeating the patterns and not realizing it.  I’m sure you do not want to repeat the pattern(s) you once lived, for your children.  Healthy relationships and boundaries are important in any relationship in life.  Pass those behaviors on to your children to learn!  Children Learn What They Live!

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As the holiday season approaches, it is a stressful time of year for many; especially survivors of abuse.  It can be a very triggering time of year.  And being around family without setting boundaries, can sometimes make for a holiday disaster. 

Put yourself first.  You are in control.  Give yourself permission to either break away or at the very least, set those boundaries with family and/or friends that are not healthy for you. 

If you or someone you know needs someone to talk to or are looking for help, please call the local Crisis Center in your area.  If you prefer, many religious organizations having organized weekly/monthly meetings, as well.  There is always someone to talk to when you need help.  You are never alone. 

If you are thinking, “I’m not in crisis, why would I call a crisis center?”  Crisis centers have various resources available for individuals in the community.

For a list of local crisis centers in your area, please call:  1-800-656-HOPE

Or you may go to:  Search for a local crisis center